Where did we go wrong?

I swear, Rebekah is going to be the death of me. I sometimes watch her behavior and wonder what the heck Steve and I did wrong that made her this way! Did we love her too much? Tell her she was important a few too many times? I can't figure out why a child who used to be so sweet and loving has turned into this selfish, mean, disrespectful monster.


This morning, I got out the old soccer cleats, socks and shinguards to have Jake try them on for his first soccer practice tonight. She started throwing a fit about him trying on her old shinguards and shoes. She was seriously lying there on the floor, CRYING about it. Then, when his cleats from last year didn't fit, and I was trying on her pair from last year, she took the right shoe and put it on her foot and refused to take it off so that Jake could try it on. She isn't even playing soccer this fall! She chose basketball instead. I seriously have no idea how to deal with her at this point. We have tried grounding her, extra chores, spanking, time out, loss of privledges, earlier bedtimes, taking away her toys and books, giving her naps, even making her pay us money when she misbehaves. NOTHING WORKS! So, now I am off to spend money on a new pair of cleats for Jake since Becka refuses to let me try hers on him. I told her that when it comes time for her to get basketball shoes, she can forget it. She can just wear regular tennis shoes since she is acting this way. I don't have the 30 bucks to spend on his shoes when he could possibly wear her old ones. I can't even get her to let him TRY them on. GAH!!!! I swear, she should have been my brother's kid. I never acted like this!

Jake doesn't act this way, even Rachel has more self control than Becka does. I swear, the child needs anger management classes.